Intimacy – Healing


My mother competed with me on every level as I was growing up. When I expressed interest in a certain item of clothing (like boots when I was 13 – as an example), she would tell me that she didn’t have the money to buy the boots for me, but the next thing I knew,… Continue reading Intimacy – Healing

Reader Question: If I Divorce My Husband Will I Lose My Salvation? — To Love, Honor and Vacuum


If you fall out of love with your husband and decide to divorce him, will you lose your salvation? Every Monday I like to post a reader question, and today’s is a heavy one from a woman who thinks she has finally found true love–just not with her husband. And she wonders if divorcing her… via… Continue reading Reader Question: If I Divorce My Husband Will I Lose My Salvation? — To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Ultimate Marriage Reading Challenge of 2015 – May


When I saw the book of the month for May was To Love, Honor and Vacuum, I honestly didn’t think it applied to me. I mean, I work outside the home and I have a husband who cooks and washes the dishes every night and always helps out when and where he can. Yes, I have been so blessed. But, I made a commitment this year to read at least one book a month that will benefit me and my marriage and so I took up the challenge to read the book.

And it is amazing.
Not only does it give insightful advice on how to manage your home – whether you’re a working mom and a stay-at-home mom, but it challenges you. I love the fact that Sheila never once made me feel guilty for working outside the home. And I think many (if not all) working moms feel guilty. Yesterday, Baby Girl had a fall at school and hubby had to rush to the school to fetch her and take her to the doctor. I felt sick to my stomach that I couldn’t be there for her, but I was very grateful that my hubby could be. But the guilt – oh, the guilt! She is fine and the doctor checked her over carefully to make sure there is no concussion or anything like that.

Day 7:  Marriage is to make you Holy


Today is day 7 of Jennifer Smith’s 30 day devotional, Wife After God. In Sheila Wray Gregoire’s blog, she has a post that I wish everyone could read.  It’s called, What the Vow Means.  And in it she talks about how it doesn’t matter what your husband has done or hasn’t done, or what kind… Continue reading Day 7:  Marriage is to make you Holy

Does God Make a Difference


In my last post, Crossing the Great Divide, I posted about how God led me to blogs about marriage, when I was looking for blogs on anxiety.  And in all of those blogs, I have realized it is how you think about something – or what you think about a thing that truly counts.  You may not… Continue reading Does God Make a Difference

The Great Deceiver


A visit from my cousin – My cousin, who lives in Johannesburg and came down for a pastor’s conference to little old Port Elizabeth, popped in for a visit last night.  I have not seen my cousin in about seven years, and that was for a funeral – prior to that, I cannot remember ever… Continue reading The Great Deceiver

Having THAT kind of fun in your marriage… and telling him about it!


The other day, I posted about the importance of having fun in your marriage.  Read all about it here.  But today, at To Love, Honour and Vacuum (which is one of my favourite marriage blogs, by the way), J from Hot, Holy and Humourous is guest posting for Sheila Wray Gregoire about how to let your man know you enjoy… Continue reading Having THAT kind of fun in your marriage… and telling him about it!

How to make your marriage fun…


Recently, I posted about the importance of having fun in your marriage.  And yes, it is important, but how does one go about doing that?  Well, first, it has to be a mindset.  Decide – very definitely – that whatever it is you are doing with your spouse, you are going to enjoy it and… Continue reading How to make your marriage fun…

Making your marriage fun.


Yes, marriage is hard work.  And yes, it is difficult to take two very different personalities, from two very different back grounds and try merge into one happy union.  Getting that right takes practice and commitment and some sound advice from those who have walked the road that you are now on. Titus 2:2-5 Teach… Continue reading Making your marriage fun.