Intimacy – Feelings (mine, yours, ours) Sometimes, I know that my husband doesn’t get me. I will try explaining something to him and I can see by his expression or his response that I could very well be speaking Latin and he just doesn’t get me. And by the very same token, there are many… Continue reading Intimacy – Feelings
Last week, I chatted about how I started to learn about how important time is in building intimacy. I just wanted to clarify and say that many people – for various reasons and circumstances – are not physically with their spouses. There are ways to build intimacy when you’re apart.
The Passion Principles by Shannon Ethridge
This is the second book in The Marriage Challenge by Sheila Wray Gregoire.
To be honest – I am at a bit of a loss for words, because I found myself saying, yes, yes, yes to everything Shannon says in her book, but how do I blog about that? It’s such a personal journey and there are so many profound truths in her book that short of plagiarizing her entire book and copying the whole thing here, I think the best option is quite simply to buy her book and read it for yourself.
Last week Pearl encouraged us to focus on being grateful for sexual intimacy – it’s hard to feel grateful for something you don’t feel that you have. But, I realised that I DO have this – I just need to find a way of unlocking it. And in line with my #21daysofthanks, I have spared a moment this week to give God thanks that He has created us so well, that each part fits together perfectly – in perfect synchronicity.
Last week, Pearl challenged us to start seeing ourselves as beautiful. Once again, this is not something that comes easily to me, especially when there is already nothing about myself that I like. However, what I decided to do, and what has worked for me in the past, is that I decided to believe what God says about me above what I feel about myself. God’s word is truth and his word says that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, that I am a temple of the Holy Spirit and that his word lives inside me. And guess what happened? I feel a shift – it’s a small shift, but it is there. Instead of focusing on all these negative messages I have received my whole life that has led me to believe I am ugly and unworthy, I am now believing God’s word that says I am beautiful and most definitely worthy. I think believing the God of Truth is far better than believing my negative past experiences.
There are days when I just don’t feel like it – the battling, the trying, the anxiousness, the fear…. Days when the staying in bed is easier than the getting up, when the staying at home is easier than the going to work, the giving up is easier than the carrying on. But, what God teaches us in the commitment, in the perseverance, in the “hanging in there” is that we trust Him no matter how we feel. On the day that I don’t feel like it, I can do it because God has called me to honour Him in all that I do. On the days when it is easier to stay in bed, I go to work because this is God’s plan for my life. On the days when I feel like quitting, I hang in there, because God has called me to finish this race.