We all go through seasons of life. At the moment, hubby and I are going through the “raising a child, and battling to pay our bills” season. And it is exhausting.
Although, I have come to believe that pretty much all aspects of life is exhausting.
Last night, I got into bed by 20:00, and just simply read a book. It was so lovely to just read – although I was very tired and went to bed early, I did manage to get quite a bit of reading done.
And I know that most married couples are constantly striving: to do better, parent better, work better with financials, sort out our issues, talk, discuss, do… more and more and more.
And I am not for one moment suggesting that we shouldn’t be striving to be better, or do better, or to work through issues that need working through – but if you’re living your life from one problem to the next, you’re missing out on some “rest” time.
You know that rest…
The rest that says we have issues to work on, and we will (are) working on them, but right now I’m tired and I just want to enjoy us. Its okay to set aside the issues for five minutes and have a good old belly laugh with your partner…
You see, its the enjoyment of us, the fun, the laughter, the resting in knowing that no matter what is faced, God has your back, that builds up the stamina to face and really deal with the hard times.
I remember seeing a documentary on Hurricane Katrina and they were following this couple who had lost their home, their livelihoods, and pretty much everything that they had. And as they were clearing away the rubble of what was once their home, do you know what these two individuals were doing? They were joking with each other and laughing. I mean, seriously laughing. And I find that pretty awesome. They both knew that they had hard times ahead, they knew that they had to literally rebuild their lives from scratch, they knew that they had nothing to their names… but they were enjoying each other, they were resting in the fact that no matter what they have to face, they will face it together, and they can now just “rest” in each other – be at peace with each other.
Now, you may say that Hurricane Katrina was something that happened to them, but most people have issues between them. Yes, I know that… But, do you think this couple could not face issues between them head on and in love and respect, if they can laugh and enjoy each other if they’ve just lost their homes?
There will always be issues to deal with. We are fallen people, living in a fallen world, we will get distracted, side-stepped, desire wrong things, sin, hate, rebel – but with all that, we can rest in the knowledge that God loves us, He won’t let us go, we can trust Him. And we can rest in the fact that if we keep handing our marriages to God, and if we keep focusing on ourselves and growing through God’s grace, and even if you never see the changes that you desire in your marriage in this life time, you can still rest in the knowledge that God has got this covered. Be a Jacob and battle and strive on, but also rest and relax and just simply trust.
There is peace in the kind of intimacy that says that no matter what is going on around us or between us, I rest in the knowledge that through God’s grace, it will all be okay.
It’s a surrendering, a trust, a love of something beyond ourselves and our current circumstances, a “being still and knowing that God is God.”
BE STILL AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD. Ps 46:10
Rest in God, rest in love, rest in your partner, rest in the knowledge that God always wants what is best for you and your marriage – not what is easy, but what is best. And that involves making us more like Christ, and living lives to glorify Him. And even in that thought we can rest and know that He is God; His got you covered…