After reading Pearl’s challenge last week, there is a verse that has popped into my mind…
Romans 5:3-5 NIV: Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
Last week Pearl encouraged us to keep the faith. And that made me think of this verse – notice how hope isn’t the first thing. It is struggling, and in that struggle you develop perseverance and then character. Once you have persevered, and developed character then, and only then, does hope come. And although I can’t quite articulate clearly in words – I have seen this work out. I have battled with anxiety and fear – and only now, after the struggle, and after I have persevered through it, only now do I have hope.
And so I think it is the same with sexual intimacy with your husband – you struggle, you persevere, you build character and then hope comes. And hope will come through God’s glory, because our faith is in Him. And I find that quite exciting. How long will we battle before hope comes? I don’t know. Only God knows His timing and His plans.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
And with that, in this weeks reading, Pearl tells us that this path we’re walking on IS God’s will for us. God wants marriages to work. He wants marriages to be abundant, to be happy, to be display His love to the world. And so, rest assured, God will answer your prayers. It may come in ways that will surprise you, but His answer will come.
Pearl also encourages us to “think ourselves sexy”. Wow.
I've never thought of myself as sexy.
Wearing sexy underwear, or thinking of myself as a woman even doesn’t come naturally to me. However, God is busy renewing my mind and so I will just add this to the list of things to renew about my thinking.
Romans 12:2 NIV: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
And I want to walk this path – I want to have greater and deeper sexual intimacy with my husband. I want him. I want to love him forever. Until the day we die.
“Sexy is when it feels good to be in your own skin. Your own body feels right. It feels comfortable. Sexy is when you love being you.”
That confidence is crucial for sex drive transformation. You have to allow yourself to be comfortable. Are you already comfortable in your skin? What can you do to help improve if you aren’t comfortable?
Asking the Lord’s guidance to improve sexual intimacy with your husband is in accordance with His will! Marital Sexual Intimacy is God ordained. He’ll show you the path. He wishes you both to enjoy its bonding and pleasure.