Today is day 24 of Jennifer Smith’s 30 day devotional, Wife After God.
Being “one flesh” with your man is not easy. In fact, I think marriage is extremely difficult to do, and in the very same breath it should be the easiest thing to do. It’s difficult because you are two very different individuals with two very different outlooks on life, backgrounds, upbringing, schooling, experiences, home life, etc. And to try to match those two very different aspects into “one flesh” is not easy. Also, add into that whole mix is the gender angle – men and women are designed to be different and that on its own can make building a strong healthy relationship very challenging. But, on the other hand, it should be quite easy, because quite simply you obey God in your marriage – difficult to do, easy to understand – both sides of the same coin.
But, all those aspects of who you are, who you were, your different experiences, upbringing, different genders, different ideas is what makes the different parts of your marriage exciting. And yes, it is difficult to bring all those different parts together into a one flesh union – difficult, but not impossible. It’s the idea of never giving up, the idea of always moving towards that goal of a one flesh union that gives you the motivation – through Christ – to have the concept of a one flesh union materialise into reality.
And as Jennifer Smith takes this one step further – we take care of the various parts of our body. If we battling with our earing, we see an ENT specialist. If we’re battling with our tummy’s, we go to a doctor. We try sleep well, eat well and look after ourselves – to the best of our ability. And so, we need to take care of the various parts of our marriage – our intimacy, our finances, keeping our home, raising our children, working, spirituality, etc…
“Dear Lord, I thank you for my husband. Thank you for the gift of a one flesh union. I pray that my husband and I can look after and care for the various parts of our lives that make up our marriage. I pray that you will give us the grace to love each other deeply and we continuously cement our one flesh union. I pray that you will bring my husband and I closer together. I love you, Lord. Thank you for bringing my husband into my life. In Jesus’ name, AMEN!”