Today is day 9 of Jennifer Smith’s 30 day devotional, Wife After God.
Sheila Wray Gregoire, in her blog, Love, Honour and Vacuum often raises the point that we are good wives, not because of what our husbands do for us, but because we choose to be obedient to God.
When it comes to marriage, your ultimate guide shouldn’t be your experience. It should be what God says. Reference here.
And I think this is quite hard, because often we allow our thoughts, feelings and experience to dictate what we do and say. But, this is not how God works. God asks us to be a good wife, a loving wife, a devoted wife not because of, but despite our marriages and our circumstances. Having said that, however, very often it is in our obedience that things start to change for us.
When we frame it into an issue of faith in God, it takes on a new meaning. We’re looking at the problem with the attitude, not a problem with the action. Actions, you see, flow out of attitudes, and if our attitudes aren’t in line with what God said, our actions won’t conform, either. Reference here.
And if we want to be the good wife that God calls us to be, we need to believe that God is good, and kind, and loving and only wants what is best for us.
Jeremiah 29:11 New International Version (NIV)
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
“Being a good wife begins with your relationship with God. As you walk with God, the Holy Spirit will transform your heart and your character, teaching you what is right. With your eyes focused on God you become a light to others through your words and actions. God will also be your source of energy, your source of hope, and your source of strength to endure any season of life. The closer you draw to God the more your faith will grow, your joy will abound, and your desire to be a good wife will inevitably increase.” Reference here.
God calls us to obedience in Him. It doesn’t matter what our current circumstances are – we are to believe in and be obedient to God. And He gives us many passages for learning about being a good wife.
Amongst many others…
And then, very often – though not always, your circumstances change because you are reacting from a position of faith.
Thank you that you have given us many passages throughout Scripture teaching us how to be good wives. Passages that are still relevant today. Help me to realise that you are my strength and my fortress. Help me to walk my walk with you in line, so that I can honour you and my husband in marriage. May my marriage be blessed as I submit my role as a wife to you, asking that you transform me into the woman you created me to be. I lift up my husband, praying that he too would find his worthiness in you. You are worthy God of my heart and my faith. In Jesus’ name.