Today is day 5 of Jennifer Smith’s 30 day devotional, Wife After God.
Have you ever noticed a friend of yours who is wild and unruly and breaking all the rules, just suddenly seems to settle within themselves when they fall in love? Gone are the wild days, and welcome to the settled life. And I think it is because they have finally found someone who loves them. And so it is with God – who totally and completely loves us.
But we do not have to fear that God doesn’t love us or that He won’t come through for us in our time of need. We need to learn to accept the reality of His love for us, so that our fears do not control us. First John 4:18 says that perfect love casts out fear. If you’re afraid of facing a person or a situation in your life, God’s love can help you put your fears to rest. Reference here.
You see, when we finally realise that God loves us and that nothing in this life will ever happen to us without God’s permission, and that whatever does happen will work out for our good anyway, and when you realise that God’s plan is to love us and to prosper us and not to harm us, we will eventually realise that there is never any reason to fear.
And that is what God’s transforming love does. It changes us into people who are confident and strong and living life abundantly.
“The power of that kind of love also transforms marriage. You have the opportunity to express the love of Christ towards your husband, regardless if he deserves it or earns it. You can endure like Christ endures because you love unconditionally and sacrificially. In doing so your marriage will reflect God’s love story, the story of reconciliation.” Reference here.
And our love for God and for our husbands should transform us – it should make us want to be the kind of wife that both God and our husbands can be proud of. And its not about what our husbands do or don’t do. This is between you and God and honouring God’s call on your life. And as we all know, Rome wasn’t built in a day. The transformation you need to be the kind of wife that is soundly based on Scripture, takes time. Very often, first, we need to break down barriers and wrong thinking, and healing from past hurts and only then can we start to rebuild. But know this, God is on your side and His love will transform you. Just as you loving your husband can transform your marriage – and then also transform you.
Thank you for my husband. Thank you that he loves me. Thank you that your love is transforming our lives and our marriage. Thank you that you have brought us together to transform each other by loving each other. Thank you for your grace and your understanding of our needs. I pray that you will continue to bring us closer together and that as you heal all past hurts and wounds, you will transform us and our marriage in way that will reflect your love for us. All of us. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.