Today is day 3 of Jennifer Smith’s 30 day devotional, Wife After God.
“You said yes to standing side by side, to enjoying life together, enduring storms together, comforting one another, and making yourself known to each other through intimate conversations and experiences. You said yes. To have a thriving marriage you must protect your companionship with your husband. Make it a priority to pursue your husband, to invite him to join you, to commune with him and communicate with him. Trust in him, be confident in his abilities, rely on him, and rally with him. Be his friend and experience the marvellous gift of companionship.” Reference here.
What I really like about this quote from Jennifer Smith’s book, Wife After God, is the sense that all these actions are choice, and must be actively engaged. You cannot passively lie on the couch, and watch TV the whole time, and expect to have a vibrant and healthy marriage. You need to get up, and actively pursue the companionship with your husband. And very often, I find in marriages that are battling, there is no longer any form of companionship. Remember, when you were first dating, and you would spend hours on the phone chatting until late into the night? Or you would go out for a coffee and land up staying for supper because you are talking so much? And remember how comfortable you felt sharing everything with your husband? It just wasn’t an issue to share everything with him?
How is that going now?
Do you still talk about everything and anything?
Or do you make quick comments about what needs to be done during the day and that’s about it?
Go back to when you were first dating. Pursue that kind of “I’m still getting to know you” type of companionship, where you would chat all the time. Where you were best friends, spent all your time together, chatted about everything, and simply adored each other. Never forget, and always actively engage in the fact, that your spouse is not only your spouse, but should also be your best friend, your lover, your companion. Nurture that and grow that – and never, ever neglect it.
Thank you for my husband. Thank you that he loves me. Thank you that we are friends, and lovers, and husband and wife to each other. Give us the grace and strength to always nurture that. In Jesus name, Amen.