As you know, we are following Abigail Alleman‘s delightful blog and Pure Passion series. Today, she discusses the season of single. I know that for myself, there were many stages in my life I was quite happy to not have someone – I was not the kind of girl who went from one relationship to the next. I used to have breaks in between and I thought it quite odd at the time that I did this, because all my friends, and many other people who I knew, used to go from one relationship to the next.
I think that having a season of singleness where you learn to rely on God and you learn exactly what it is that you are capable of is so important. And then I have friends and family (like hubby’s brother) who is now turning 40 and who has never had a serious girlfriend, and there are no prospects of him getting married. And I know that although he has now reached a stage of being comfortable with being single, he would so dearly love to have a wife and family. God knows best – He always does, and perhaps his season of singleness may be permanent. Perhaps he will never marry. But, faith and love and trust in God’s purposes is what we all need – whether married or single.
While I was single, I became the first in my family to travel overseas. Through this I became fluent in Spanish and traveled to Latin America as a translator for several missions’ projects. I began a teaching career and knew great capacity to intern with youth groups and continually mentor high school students. I moved a day’s drive from home not knowing a single person where I moved. I experienced a powerful call to ministry and began seminary. I weathered the deepest romantic heartache of my life. As it crushed me, I needed to find the strength to heal and move forward with a soft, hopeful heart. I did the thing my determined independence would not allow. With a peace that truly surpassed my understanding I moved home with my parents. I learned to live interdependently with my mother, in particular, as I experienced healing in our relationship. … A year after I moved home, my mother was diagnosed with stage four cancer. I was a primary care-giver and found strength in God, my Husband, to be an anchor of support to both of my parents as my mom was dying. … These single years are precious and made me a Jesus girl through and through. For my husband, this is the single most attractive thing about me. Reference here.