A marriage make-over…

There have been many times I have looked in the mirror and wished for a make-over; to finally lose the weight I gained in my pregnancy FOUR years ago (yes, I know…), to have my hair redone, to have my teeth whitened, and so many other things.  And I know its important to love yourself, but it is also important to look after yourself.  Anyway, I digress…

Don’t you often wish you could do a start-over or a make-over in your marriage?  Just delete all that has happened and begin again?  Well, marriage may not have a delete button, but it is certainly possible to change things – change your thinking, your attitude, and start rebuilding your marriage – all with the grace of God.

At Unveiled Wife, Jennifer Smith speaks about this topic and gives some great resources to help you on your journey.

Do you ever feel like you need a marriage makeover?

How about a little remodeling?

I have felt this way in my marriage… in fact there have even been times that I will admit I would have loved to demolish what was existing to be able to start over again!  You know what I mean… those frustrations or fights that break out, leaving couples feeling completely hopeless in their relationship.

Marriage is an ebb and flow of “for better” and “for worse” – good days and not so good days.  It is built by the experiences and interactions of a husband and wife over time.  Marriage is a commitment made by husbands and wives to love and honor each other.

It Is A Relationship That Requires Investment!

If you want a marriage makeover, you first need to evaluate and assess the present condition of your marriage.  Think about the areas of strengths and weaknesses in your relationship.  Consider what things you would like to see change, or characteristics in either you or your husband you would like to see transformed.  And just like a building cannot be constructed without permits and inspections to check the foundation and construction along the way in comparison to the master blueprints, it is crucial for husbands and wives to remain accountable to the blueprints of marriage God has outlined for us in His Word.  God is the one who has designed, created, and established marriage, and I believe He knows it best.  So if you want your marriage makeover to be a success DO NOT skip over what God says about marriage in the Bible!

You can also find resources to help you along the way for tips to help you through the transformation process! Here are a few recommendations I suggest: (You can click on the titles to check out more details)

For Wives:

Women Living Well by Courtney Joseph

Wife After God by Jennifer Smith

Power Of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

The Resolution For Women by Priscilla Shirer

For Husbands:

Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby


The Love Dare by Alex Kendrick

The Resolution For Men by Stephen Kendrick

For Couples:

Real Marriage by Mark & Grace Driscoll

Love Does by Bob Goff

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

Fireproof The Movie

If your marriage is not where you desire it to be, I want to encourage you to take time to invest into it one day at a time. Do not let this list overwhelm you, but rather allow it to inspire you with a plan of action to believe in what it can and will be in the future.

Transformation is possible, I know because I have experienced it.  My husband and I were failing in our marriage, close to getting a divorce.  We needed an extensive marriage makeover, and to be honest it has taken years to rebuild, but we are doing it together…and the more we accomplish the more motivated we are to keep investing!

Dear Lord,

I pray for husbands and wives who are in need of a marriage makeover!

I ask that you would help them to invest into their marriage and rebuild it together.

I pray they would find value in these resources and that you would inspire them to be motivated in making improvements for the sake of their relationship.

Holy Spirit please equip them to make a strong foundation and reveal to them all the details they need to know from your Word.

I pray marriages would be radically transformed and built stronger than ever before in Jesus’ name I pray,


Would you please commit to investing into one area of your marriage today and do so by mentioning in the comments one of these resources you will look further into?  Let’s keep each other accountable and cheer each other on!  Also, if you have additional resources that would benefit a husband and wife please list them in the comments as well!

Please go over to Jennifer’s blog – there is some amazing advise and if you have some ideas that she can share with her readers, please use the comments section in her blog at Unveiled Wife to let her know.  She is doing a great work, because marriage is supremely important to God, and even just one little comment from you, may help someone save their marriage.

Never underestimate how important marriage is to God – and how important you are to God.


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