Firstly, I am back from leave and back into the grindstone at work. Happy new year to you all – let’s hope all wonderful and beautiful blessings for 2014!
With us desperately trying to get out of our financial stronghold we find ourselves in, hubby is travelling to Johannesburg and Cape Town more and more. And in today’s post at 31 Days to a Better Marriage series, Sonya Schroeder has given us some tips to put into place when your husband travels. However, I think this tips are so great, I think they can be incorporated into every day – even when your hubby is just going to a normal day’s work.
1. Pray for your Husband!
Philippians 4:6 “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God”
Through the years, I have learnt that prayer is the key to everything. Because it is the platform on which God performs miracles, but also it helps to focus our minds on what is truly important. Life is hard, and work is hard and we need God’s guidance and the Holy Spirit to help us through. Pray that God will look after your man, look after you, look after your marriage – both while apart and while together. Do not let fear and doubt creep in, but instead fill up on prayer that God will keep everything safe. Remember how important marriage is to God, and use that as a basis for your prayers.
2. Communicate in LOVE!
1 Corinthians 12:4-8 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
I think we all fail at this – sometimes more than others. But, we need to remember the love, because God is love. If we are to survive in these harsh financial times, our hubby’s may need to do more than even they want to do to provide for their families and plan for a future and retirement. Try be understanding to your husband’s needs – he will certainly appreciate you understanding that he is simply doing the best he can.
3. Place love notes throughout is bags!
You can even do this when you pack his lunch for a normal day’s work – how nice it would be for him to simply know that his wife loves and supports him (even when he least expects a little kind and thoughtful message).
4. Make every moment count!
I have to be honest – I have no idea how busy my husband is. When he gets home, he rarely wants to do shop talk. I think he just needs a complete break from his day. And I also know, that even though he listens to me during the day, he does get slightly annoyed when I phone him from work to reminisce about how cute Baby Girl was over the weekend. He is busy! He is providing for his family! And he has work today. I can quite easily reminisce at night when he is with me. So, when I phone him – I have to take into account that although I may have a five-minute break, he may not. Oh, Lord, please will this sink into my brain!
5. Never let anger consume the trip!
Ephesians 4:26-27“Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity”
When we take our eyes off of Christ that is when the fighting, insecurities, doubts, and fears creep in. Look out for these as they are NOT from Christ. Stop and pray God’s Word so that the enemy will be crushed. If this doesn’t work repeat 1 & 2!
As I said, use this for everyday. Always remember what your marriage is truly about. And pray, pray, pray!